{"id":5187,"date":"2023-01-11T12:30:48","date_gmt":"2023-01-11T17:30:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thesterlingstudy.com\/?p=5187"},"modified":"2023-03-09T12:05:07","modified_gmt":"2023-03-09T17:05:07","slug":"the-act-of-being-intentionally-alone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thesterlingstudy.com\/the-act-of-being-intentionally-alone\/","title":{"rendered":"The Act of Being Intentionally Alone"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Photo by Noah Silliman<\/a> on Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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I am sitting here in one of my favorite diners \u2014 family run, mainly runs on cash and great food. Of course, it is dark outside where I am in the North<\/a> around 5 pm. But, I am alone. Alone at my booth and enjoying myself with only two other people here: the waiter and a security guard who came in for a cup of coffee.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I love being alone, the ability to think alone, the creativity I have of being alone, and the joy of finding pleasure in my own company. Yes, I am that person that encourages herself (and others) to find joy in their own company. You can, too – find joy in your own company, that is.<\/p>\n

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I find it fascinating that the devastation that COVID on the world truly pushed others into two categories: being alone 100% or finding some community to stay afloat. It truly pushed people to think about the aspect of being alone and some did not find it wanting. This inner need, from my perspective, is driven by the aspect of being lonely. According to Webster’s Dictionary, lonely has two key definitions: being without company and being cut off from others.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Please, stay with me as the waiter brings me my vanilla milkshake. Now, the intentional act of being alone is the unmentioned third category of the two spoke choices above. It is one category that I am personally fond of. After all, it is in human nature<\/a> to have moments of solitude \u2014intentional or not. Well, speaking of solitude these days, it has been affected by the slot machine that a smartphone has become that encourages people to scroll and passively engage needlessly. It can barely leave any time to yourself for your ideas and thoughts to flow into awareness.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Recently, I have been engaging in different topics around the attention of the human mind. One of these topics comes from my reading of Cal Newport\u2019s book, Deep Work. This book has reminded me of different moments when I choose intentional solitude to \u2018get things done\u2019. For example, I recall moments like studying alone at the library, going on walks alone to think, reading an interesting novel alone, and eating alone at my favorite cafe. Newport focuses on intentional solitude of one\u2019s self and not being far from civilization.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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I want to note my previous examples were solo acts that I have shared with others too as communal acts but, I have enjoyed them the most as solo acts. That is one of the main ideas of taking on the process of Deep Work. Like, I am writing this essay at my favorite diner away from my laptop and phone with my essay notebook that I acquired for this deep work purpose. Now for the intentional steps that I want to share with you to think about as I eat my waffles:<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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